Looking Closely

The world swirls around with all its distractions, and I sometimes find it difficult to focus on what's really important to me. I get caught up in budget crises and unemployment, traffic jams and email spam, and could the nice folks doing necessary work on our roads please speed up the process?! The reality is, … Continue reading Looking Closely


Word of the Week: Panoply

My friend and bandleader, Tom LaMark, used the word "panoply" in conversation recently. What a lovely word! It's so old-fashioned, a bit like Tom himself, and I mean that in the best way possible. The word panoply, if you're wondering (and I was), has three meanings, according to Dictionary.com pan·o·ply [pan-uh-plee]  –noun, plural -plies. 1. a wide-ranging and impressive array or display:     the dazzling panoply of the maharaja's procession; the panoply of … Continue reading Word of the Week: Panoply

The Mistakes I Make

I'm not sure if it's because it's now expected of me, or if I just assume I cannot complete this task correctly, but I rarely make grilled cheese sandwiches without burning one side. And burning one side is actually progress, from my point of view, because early in my cooking career I would regularly burn … Continue reading The Mistakes I Make

Losing Mary

My neighbor is about to die, I'm told. I never had the chance to know her - she has faced major health challenges since long before I became her neighbor, and had little opportunity to mingle in the block parties and kids' activities that swirled around us when our families were younger. Her husband is … Continue reading Losing Mary

Dating Ourselves

After 30 years together, my husband and I are dating again. Sounds romantic, doesn't it? Let me tell you about our time together. I arrive to our tryst at the prearranged time, we order a meal, then make small talk and watch TV while we wait for our dinner. You know, "how was your day?" … Continue reading Dating Ourselves